Taramafor

Sontewall abuse

Online censorship and excuses for lack of communication. With online on a whole.

Once people go "Fuck off" then what do you think that teaches people? Abusive mods (from various sites) teach that to people. Who then do it to others. It's gotten so normalized. Where lack of communication is treated as the norm.

End result? People suffering in silence and living in fear. Where concerns are behind backs instead of in faces.

Sites with high traffic will struggle the most. Discord at least has vent rooms on servers. Why can't people be their flawed selves all the time though?

The above is just to get people thinking. The next one I'd like an answer too though.

Who do you think is more aware of the danger, the person paying attention to it or the one turning a blind eye?

For context have you ever seen a cop be stupid enough to ignore? Mods aren't trained enough. That's just the simple fact of the matter.

Sontewall abuse

Also known as conflict avoidance. The illusion of control when you've already lost it.

I talk to mods and admins off site. Some understand better. Others are stupid enough to ignore the danger.

I want to be clear on this one. It's costs people their sanity and lives. A lot of people suffer in silence. I lost someone to suicide over a decade ago myself. Had to learn from it.

User to user: That gets some more leeway. People can talk things out.

Mods that abuse power: Different matter. Excuses for lack of communication does more harm and damage. People just might not see it. Censorship is hiding the truth.

It just takes holding conversations. It's a clear cut matter of communication vs lack of communication. Misunderstnadings will happen. Better to accept that and be prepared. Pretend people have to be perfect and that's the problem. That's the simplest way I can put it. In terms that people here can understand.

Just let people be flawed more. Is all I can really say.

Hello!`

We were roleplaying on discord. Blackrose had concerns. I asked questions. Blackrose then went "Thank you". Which didn't answer the questions. And blocked me.

From what I understand Blackrose is seeing a therapist. We talked a bit in PMs. They have a "That's not going to change" mindset. The type to be stuck in her ways basically.

They struggle. I get that. I'm not unreasonable. Lack of communication though? Excuses to push away/avoid? That's exactly the problem. Objectively speaking. For many people. If that's what people are taught then is it any wonder people learn it? It's stonewall abuse. It's trying to "ignore" the problem instead of speaking with people properly. I'm saying it straight.

Despite their flaws they were talking to me in PMs. Now we can't address concerns. Because for some reason they were banned. That or they deleted their account (but it says banned). So now the misunderstandings linger. They admit to being evasive. I crawled into bed and had to sleep it off. Lack of communication partly on me perhaps.

We all make mistakes don't we?

Sum up your week in roleplaying in just 3 words

Effort. Gets. Results.

What kind of roleplays would you like to see on this site?

Sexaul ones. I work in plot with it. Fantasy theme myself. Sci fi for the techy types.

The problem is the lack of activity on the site.

I do more then just roleplay as well. For example I've done trial periods on second Life even if IC roleplay is a good part of things. The truth is people that make the time make things work.

Maybe some way to give people an idea of what roelplay skills someone is when joining the site? I'm a more advanced poster myself. I'm a DM dragon. So I need people that can keep up with me. Doesn't seem to be covered on profiles.

Demonic dragon

I'm the honest monster. If you think things are black and white then rethink.

I para roleplay. That means longer text. About 4-5 lines on discord. Lewd focus with plot. I work in NPCs as well.

I get to know who I interact with too. Need to know what I'm working with. Secrets will only backfire. I'm an open book myself.

Conflict avoidance and excuses for lack of communication will not be helpful. It's more realistic to know that misunderstandings and arguments will happen and be prepared for it.

I transform my partners into other feral dragons (if they're not one already).

Be on every day and make the time and good things can happen. Second Life can be good for things too. One thing at a time though. I have to "keep it real" more online.

Oh, and bad things happen in roleplay too. It's about dealing with consequences. I push limits. Know what you get into. Works btoh ways of course. Just keep the immersion intact and make sure things make sense.

Feel free to message me.