I still think allowing Plank a second main PC is a terrible idea as it creates a precedent that I don't think should be adhered to, (not to mention a new RPer was elbowed out of the way to make it happen) but that decision was ultimately not mine.
I assumed had the matter been settled in the remaining OOC then someone, most likely Lug or Plank would kindly inform him that we were no longer open, thank him for his interest and ask him to leave. Clearly I expected too much from a group who would rather devolve into senseless bickering over a simple misunderstanding than handle a very simple situation with a modicum of decency.
My only problem is that you keep continually mischaracterizing the whole situation - I doubt it's willful (or, at least, I hope it's not) but those repeated misunderstandings keep happening, it ends up leading us deeper and deeper into shit. I didn't elbow aside
anyone, at any time. I PM'd Lug over a week ago about keeping a character that has roots in Write's subplot in the game on a more full-time basis, and wondered if, since the new team had been looking for a fourth member to fill it up, I could fill it. At this point,
no one had applied for the slot.
Cut to the start of this whole mess. Lugu is asked whether he's found a fourth member, forgets my request, says no, and puts out a public search. We've talked on Skype about it and there aren't any hard feelings - it was a mistake. I understand that people make them, no fucking sweat. So he puts out this request, Crimmy sees it, and tags a friend he thinks may have some interest. I'd told him I'd gotten a role on the new team a few days prior, but he forgets and doesn't realize it until after I get back and see what's started unfolding in the OOC. That's another mistake. I didn't blow up on anyone for it. They
happen.And, whether the hell you wanna believe it or not, no one was elbowed aside. As soon as I reminded Crimmy that I'd reserved the slot, he talked to Banjo and she withdrew voluntarily - despite me offering multiple times for about twelve hours that she could
have it if she wanted it. At no point did I force her out or muscle anyone into keeping the slot. I could produce any number of chatlogs backing it up, if I had anything to prove to you, but I don't. The discussion is had, the discussion seems to be settled, and it's over.
Cut to this afternoon, when the same thing happens with an RPer who wasn't part of the discussion to begin with and has never even poked into the OOC before. Of
course my initial reaction isn't positive, because it seems like you went behind my back and the backs of everyone after the OOC discussion had ended and tried to get another player involved in what seemed like a dead discussion. And even
then, I offered to Skype the new guy (girl? pls no bully i'm a misgenderer) and talk things out, explain the situation, see if maybe we could work something out if possible. Hell, you've had a Steam contact request from me sitting and gathering dust for the past half year or so -
we could have reached out and had a discussion, if you wanted.
At no point in this entire clusterfuck do I think I've been anything approaching unreasonable. In fact, given my normal temperament whenever we butt heads, I think I've done more to stay civil and try to establish discourse than anyone in this OOC who knows me (or those who only know me
from my behavior in this OOC) would expect me to. But Lucius is right up there - communication is a two-way street. If you ignore a huge swath of characters, then fine. I disagree with that GMing style, but it's your right to do that. But if you're going to ignore characters and have no idea if/when they're posting or what teams look like after a character reshuffle, then you shouldn't be the person putting together a list of who's inactive or who's not. If you're going to disagree with the way a character or RPer takes up a slot on a team, talk to that RPer instead of going behind their back when it's all but guaranteed to spark a fight in what's objectively a pretty hostile OOC.
Honestly, most of the time people give you shit for your ignorance (or supposed ignorance) is because you only admit you don't pay attention or know something
after you try to give an opinion on it. Learning to back the fuck off can go a long way towards teaching someone to chill the fuck out.
But you gotta talk it out.
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