@Odin Here's your answer.
Well if everyone understood my viewpoint, it would solve me always ending up a target in the negative feelings for me when it comes to me stating something. I would like to be on equals grounds of relatability with other people as a whole. Also something to change to make people stop ghosting me as it is dishonorable and cowardly to do that to someone as you hyped up their interest only to leave them hanging.
Well, perhaps what I have to say can be of interest to you, then, since I do ghost people. The reasons vary but most of the time it just comes down to an incompatibility in how we write that wasn't apparent just from reading your interest check, or people are/get too clingy, or I just don't enjoy talking to them. I'm not saying these apply to you, since I have never roleplayed with you to my knowledge -- but these are just some reasons I ghost people. Almost all of the reasons that I ever ditch or ghost someone have to do with me not getting along (personally, creatively, whatever) with the person I was intending to write with.
On a personal level, ghosting needs to be stop and likely punished in some way to dis-encourage it as I feel once you make interest for a RP known to someone I expect 100 percent commitment to it unless you state that you are dropping off respectfully or will be busy.
Roleplaying is not a job. If you want me to be 100% committed to anything, start paying me. I, and many people like me on this website, write for fun. Requiring a 100% commitment from your partners at all times is insane. Nobody does this, just you. This is probably also the reason why you are disappointed so often. Nobody owes you their time.
RPG will also never punish people for ghosting. That's just never gonna happen.
And never assume I was even looking for pity, I am looking to be understood with what I feel coupled along with what I say but every single time I do I get met with swords and pitchforks from people as it feels like everyone is against me for even speaking out about something that is clearly upsetting me.
I remember speaking to you about this the first time you posted your thread and doing my best to help you. I also remember you not doing anything at all with the many, many comments people gave you -- which, imho, is quite disrespectful as people literally took time out of their day to try and help you, including reading through your thread.
I tried to look for your interest check but
couldn't find it so I looked through your post history instead. I didn't find an interest check there either, so maybe I'm just blind, or alternatively you don't have one at the moment because the only interest check I could find through googling your username + roleplayerguild interest check netted me a single thread that was hidden away by the moderators (I can only guess as to why).
What I also found were posts like
these two that, frankly, I have no other way to interpret other than 'rude.' If you did this to me in my thread I'd politely ask a moderator to hide your post and then do my best to never interact with you again. There's not even a simple hello or hi, how are you, interesting times we live in huh? or anything remotely similar to that; it's just you listing things you want.
Kinda like going to a store and pointing at everything and expecting the clerk to take it for you. I would suggest to stop doing this and to create a better interaction and, more importantly, to create a better first image of you by just.. being nice and friendly.
As was answered when I asked about this before people who complain a lot (and, foregoing civility, I'm not going to pretend that you're doing anything
other than complain when you make statuses and threads about this topic) are also seen as unreliable or annoying partners.
"Why does every girl I date end up leaving me?" Gee, I don't know, but if I were a girl with even a remote interest in dating you, hearing this would probably also make me reconsider. Roleplaying is the same, as silly as that sounds, to finding a person to date. And if you tell people publicly that all your partners leave you, I'm going to assume that there is a reason for that.
And that really is the bottom line of this all; there is a reason for that, and you're
choosing to lay that reason with
everyone else but you. And, for the sake of keeping things in this thread general so that it may help others too, that is something nobody should do. If all your RPing partners leave you, that is indicative of the fact that
you are doing something wrong, not that everyone
else is doing something wrong.
So for anyone reading this wondering how they can keep people interested in them, their roleplay, or even interested in their tinkie winkie in their pants, the solution really is simple; be a better partner, and people will literally
fight over you.
As for "understanding" you; I did at some point, maybe around the first time you made a thread about this. But the spiel has gotten old, I've read about 6 of these threads now, and all of them are the exact same. It has lost any and all value even as entertainment and it's just sad and annoying now. That's why people "get out the pitchforks." It's not because they hate you, it's that they hate when you post about everyone leaving you as if people owe you a roleplay.
But, if you really think that the reason you get so much negative responses is that people don't like you, then I also have an alternative solution for you: make a new account. No, really. Make a new name and write like someone else, and see how it goes. It might just work.
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A lack of motivation or connection to my partners. Often enough to be a memorable thing that happens, but not often enough to be a problem that'd need immediate fixing; sometimes my partners also just creep me out, cross boundaries, or do things I'd generally describe as unpleasant.