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I wasn't a believer. But I've been converted.
Coffee is starting to become my go-to tool to get myself to write when my brain just doesn't want to start.
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While this has been noted before, I have no taste for coffee because of just how acidic the drink is. I find it to be one of the most overwhelming qualities of it, even if it is mingled with something as milk or cream, as well as substitutes.
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I find acidic coffee more palitable than caustic coffee.

Found out that in -30 degree weather this week my bare hands have this tendancy to turn black within 15 seconds due to frostbite.

>digs out the good mittens
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I believe Russian Knife Defense looks like it uses very similar hand and arm movements akin to traditional waltzing. (Probably 'cause they do.)

Knife is a five (5) letter word.
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I love this quote. How many people have vowed to never be like their parents and then wind up being exactly like them? It is fate or kizmit. We do have no control over that. It is our destiny. We each have one parent who we are like. For me, I have traits from both.
In the end, we become everything we swore we wouldn't be.
I identified traits in my father I wanted to avoid and was successful. For me, as a parent, I have been successful in not being a parent like my father. My mother on the other hand was always kind, patient and compassionate. I have been more like her than him.

My dad was absent from most of my life. He worked all the time. If he wasn't working, he was sleeping or getting drunk. There have been fewer than ten days in my children's life when they haven't seen me. My father was an alcoholic. He drank every day and was inebriated frequently. I bought a 12-pack of beer before Thanksgiving one year. Those 12 bottles lasted ~24 months. My father spanked me until I was twelve years old. When he did it, it was out of frustration. His spankings were what psychologists refer to as adult temper tantrums. I chose to include spankings in my parenting because I know it works. I found that with four children, some needed it and some did not. Not every child behaves the same way.

When I used that parenting tool, I sent the misbehaving child to his or her room to give both the child and me a time to cool off in the event tempers rose. Then, I would go to their room and have a conversation. I would ask them three questions:
What did you do wrong?

How can you correct your behavior in the future?

What sort of punishment should you receive?

Most of the time, when they answered the third question, I went with their suggestion. I might modify it slightly, but I like the child to have some say in the matter. If I believed the suggested punishment did not fit the offense, I would go with my idea which may or may not include spanking. Once the child reached a certain age, spanking was removed from the parenting tool kit. This was between ages 3 and 6. After a while I found that the benefit of spanking no longer existed.

Once I stopped this form of punishment, then the threat of spanking became an effective tool. You cannot threaten something you have never done. There is no teeth in the threat without it.

When my father spanked me it was an adult tantrum. When I did it, it was a calm professional conversation. There was not a lot of emotion involved and it was always done away from the other children. They may have known what was going on, which lends itself to helping with the fear of the punishment.

Today, my children who are between the ages of 8 and 14 are very well behaved. I frequently receive compliments on their behavior. Many adults will not use spanking as a tool; mistakenly believing it is child abuse. This was considered true in the courtroom in the 1980s and 1990s. Children raised in those decades were not spanked and often times grew into spoiled entitled brats who have no comprehension of consequences. They deserve the best and will not settle for less. They have grown into parents believing the same. By the late 1990s, the courts overruled a previous court case that said any parent who spanks their child is committing child abuse. As a result of the later court case, if a child suffers permanent injury or excessive bruising, trauma or lacerations occur, then yes the act of spanking would be considered child abuse in the eyes of the law. It was never a case of child abuse for me either as the child or the parent. Even in his inebriated state, I was never permanently injured or scarred by his punishments.

Spanking teaches a child humility. In the absence of humility, a child can grow to become arrogant. Arrogance and humility are two sides of the same coin. You can counter too much of one, with an extra dose of the other. The way you counter excessive humiliation is with extra heapings of praise and encouragement; things that will increase confidence. Humble confidence is the desired behavior for a child in the eyes of his/her parent.
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Hidden 5 yrs ago 5 yrs ago Post by Briza
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Briza's son likes boxes.

Boxes is a five (5) letter word.
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Hidden 5 yrs ago Post by The Harbinger of Ferocity
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There are times I suspect I am visited by a spirit of old.
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Hidden 5 yrs ago Post by Briza
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Tomorrow is the Thing!
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Tomorrow is the Thing!

Love that movie! Enjoy!

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@Hellion, it's a different Thing!, but thank you for the comment!
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Hidden 5 yrs ago Post by The Nexerus
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Clearly, Briza is excited for Groundhog Day!

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Look at us all trying to guess what Briza's Thing is. If she wanted us to know, she would have told us. I'm thinking it is something personal and has absolutely nothing to do with movies or American holidays.
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Look at us all trying to guess what Briza's Thing is. If she wanted us to know, she would have told us. I'm thinking it is something personal and has absolutely nothing to do with movies or American holidays.


No, it's just Groundhog Day.

I like the winter. Everyone always complains here, about how cold it is and about having to shovel snow and et cetera, but I like it. There's a starkness to the cold and a stillness to a winter night. I almost wish it could always be winter.
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<Snipped quote by Gunther>

No, it's just Groundhog Day.

I like the winter. Everyone always complains here, about how cold it is and about having to shovel snow and et cetera, but I like it. There's a starkness to the cold and a stillness to a winter night. I almost wish it could always be winter.


I'm cool with that as long as the White Walkers don't come with it.
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I like the winter. Everyone always complains here, about how cold it is and about having to shovel snow and et cetera, but I like it. There's a starkness to the cold and a stillness to a winter night. I almost wish it could always be winter.

I've lived in New England all my life. YOu can have it, bro. I prefer the summer months.
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I'm confident when it comes to about everything but writing, which is arguably one of my better skills.
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Here's one that might cause controversy, but I like Dark Souls 2.

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Hidden 5 yrs ago Post by The Harbinger of Ferocity
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There is a certain concern that preoccupies me based on the perception there is never enough time for everything to be done to the extent it should be done. There are too many things in life now and too many undue commitments. As such, it is a goal of mine, ongoing, to dispense with anything that is meaningless busywork. There is no need to try to make the world turn faster with every year as man seems want to do.
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@Gunther There must be some part of it she wants us to know, otherwise why bring it up at all? That's my train of thought in these matters anyway.

On an unrelated note, I find it hard to commit to learning a new skill. I'm on like my 5th try at learning a third language. I got a keyboard as a gift from a friend years ago but didn't get past the basics. I learned a little self defense but I had to move and even though I'm back in town, I haven't gone back. I tried to teach myself photography and drawing, and I'm mediocre at best and my Canon is still in the closet.

But I stick to writing so there's that.
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