I'm starting to wonder if being pan/poly is making it impossible for me to relate to this insane fixation people have. I basically entertain all offers and nothing really resonates more than anything else because I literally have no preference. Aha.
@Drache I think the main difference is that I am just less likely to bite someone's head off over it. I still judge just as harshly, but I just add them to my shit list and move on. No point dwelling. Dwelling only makes me bitter and being bitter is not fun. I've been through that.
In the end of the day, despite our disagreements and differences, we do actually have one thing in common. We roleplay, so that's a good thing yeah?
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Yes. Because there is no legitimate reason to do so.
The real reason behind this is that on some level they are conflating their pleasure/satisfaction in what's going on in the RP between our fictional characters with their relationship to ME. At best, that might make them feel weird if I don't match their usual type of romantic partner. But that's their problem and something a good writer should get over. At worst well...there are stalkers and abusers on this site who are simply looking for the right victims and use "RP preference" as a means of selection.
Some of what you're saying I already addressed. Look. I can count on one hand how many romances my characters have had in RPs, and I do not smut. I don't plan romances either. I am saying this as an unbiased party.
I am sorry you and your friends have been mistreated. Just don't turn that into a crusade against a group of roleplayers, the majority of which haven't bothered you, based on their tastes, when you can choose to stay away from them.
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So then I ask, as a simple and basic question with no extra padding or information... Is it wrong for me to ask if I can write with another writer of a particular gender?
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Someone going out of their way to RP with a minor or a minor lying about their age is completely different; it's a legal issue. Someone lying about their gender is not a legal issue. That's where those two are different, and until it's illegal, or against the site rules, to choose to roleplay with a specified gender (male, female, unknown, both, tentacles, etc) people are going to make all sorts of requests.
and specify anything further than the usual 18+ stipulation (which is about as naive as the male and female thing, but legally has legs to stand on sometimes, and is something I can easily excuse).